Kimberly Peil

She is My Sunshine

In Uncategorized on July 29, 2011 at 1:54 pm

Sometimes I just don’t know how to describe the joy that Ella brings into my life.  Motherhood is such a roller coaster of emotions. But more often than not, the good moments overshadow the bad ones.  Taking care of a newborn, and a difficult one at that, was the toughest job I have ever had in my life.

I read a zillion baby books before I was even pregnant, and I knew that attachment parenting was for me.  Of course, there is a lot of criticism out there for attachment parenting.  Many people feel that your child will become spoiled, shy and dependent.  I struggled with the criticism, but privately stuck to my parenting beliefs.  I even questioned myself and wondered if my parenting choices were the reason I was having such a hard time.

But there is an amazing thing about having a toddler.  You come out of the craziness and the sleepless nights with an overwhelming understanding of why you did everything you did.  Ella is a spunky, outgoing, caring, and funny little girl.  She is just bursting with personality.  I look back and I know that there isn’t anything I would change.

We co-slept.  People would warn that she would be stuck in our bed until she was eight.  Not the case at all.  She sleeps soundly in her crib, and it was an easy transition.

We didn’t let her “cry it out.”  There were definitely nights that I wondered if she would ever go to sleep easily.  Would I be rocking her until she was three or four?  Would she ever fall asleep on her own?  Well, she does!  It was a slow transition from rocking, to stroking her face in her crib, to just letting her know that it is time to go “ni-night.”  To me, it is a beautiful thing.  Now I know that if she ever cries at night, it is because she has had a nightmare or has something wrong.  She knows that sleeping is not a traumatic experience that she has to be afraid of.  She goes to sleep happy, and she wakes up happy.  I’m not saying that other parent’s styles are wrong.  I am just happy to announce that if you don’t want to let your child “cry it out,” then you don’t have to!  They will sleep well, and on their own eventually.

There are a lot of other aspects to Attachment Parenting, but these few seem to get the most criticism.  While I value solid advice, I have learned that my own instincts are the best.

So I kind of got sidetracked, but all of this leads up to the realization that Ella is the most amazing little girl in the whole wide world. 🙂  I’ve had some friends over the past few weeks who have gone through some pretty tragic events.  I can’t imagine their heartache, their fear, and for some even their loss.  Sometimes I get lost in my own self-pity.  But I also realize that I am blessed beyond measure.  Ella is not what I expected of my little girl… she is so much more!  I will just continue to treasure these moments, because I know that my time with her, in this capacity, is limited.  Even if she lives to be 100, I will only be the center of her world for so long.

Ella Rose, thank you for being my Sunshine.  You really do cheer me up on the gloomiest of days.

  1. Aww. So sweet! Glad to hear she’s blossoming into such a sweet girl and you are getting some sleep :-)! They grow up so fast. I feel like Cohen is a teenager sometimes! I think parents should always parent the way they feel is right. Every baby is different and I truly believe as mother’s we know what they need from us. Thankfully both my girls never slept in our beds other than when I would nurse in the night. Once we were done they went right back in their own bed. They never needed to be in ours or wanted to, and slept through the night as soon as they reached a month old! If they needed me I was there for them but I just think it’s part of who they are and who I am as their Mom that made it happen (I never read a single book on parenting) There’s no right or wrong way. It’s instinctual. I do lean more towards giving your baby a healthy routine for their benefit and yours. It’s not hurting them to help them into the swing of things once they are born (typically after the 3 month mark) an they do grasp onto habits that you allow them to form, so I think it’s up to the parent on which habits their baby gets in to. Babies and children always need our guidance and direction. They thrive on it.

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